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Be “That Guy”

17 Apr

Passion fuels everything.

Passion ultimately determined why you did what you did today.  Passion decides where your money goes and passion chooses where your time ends up.

Any kind of passion-

Passion for self.  Passion for comfort.  Passion for others.  Passion for God.  Passion for wealth.  Passion for acceptance.

It’s passion that drives our every decision.

Passion drifts towards obsession and obsession drifts towards success.  That is not always a good thing if you consider some of our common passions.

Matt Chandler, lead pastor of the village church always says this, “no one stumbles into Godliness”.  Isn’t that true?  No one goes to sleep and accidentally wakes up more Godly.

The same could be said of success.  No one stumbles into success.  Sure, people stumble into fortune by hitting the jackpot.  Sure, some people have been dealt better cards.  But winning the lottery doesn’t equal success, it just means you’re a lucky dog. Let’s not confuse good “fortune” with success.

Success is defined as “an accomplishment of an aim or purpose”.

I believe the easiest road to success is through obsession.

Growing up, I can remember when I was obsessed with the piano.  That’s all I could think about.  Playing, listening,  and learning the piano became daily routine.  Hours upon hours were spent studying and mimicking other piano players.  I remember going to birthday parties and gatherings and the first thing I wanted to know was whether or not there was a piano nearby.

I was obsessed.

My obsession led me to being a pretty skilled, ear trained piano player at 17 years old. I was successful.  My obsession led to my success.

Obsession is certainly not the only determining factor in success.  Just watch American Idol.

Many men are obsessed with hitting a little white ball around until it lands in a hole.  Very few are successful.

Obsession simply makes success easier.

People are  not “afraid of success” as much as they are afraid of obsession.  They are afraid of being “that guy”.  “That guy” that only talks about one thing.  “That guy” who does the same thing every weekend. “That guy” who has a room of his house dedicated to his obsession.

Here are some things I’ve noticed about obsession.

1) Obsession makes people uncomfortable.

2) It’s hard to tell you’re obsessed when you’re obsessed.

3) Things that once seem like work become pleasurable when you’re obsessed.

4) People try to talk you out of obsession.

5) Obsession reveals where your heart is. (Matthew 6:21)

6) Obsession without passion leads to burnout (Rev. 2:1-7)

It’s hard to be successful at something you hate. 

I encourage you to obsess.  Obsess over Christ.  Obsess over your family.  Obsess over your calling.  Obsess your way to success.


What’s your password ?

3 Apr

I recently added my work email to my iPhone. Because of this, my phone required me to put in a password for my phone. Not a password for my email. My phone! So I quickly typed in a 4 digit code so I was able to access me email.

Here’s what I noticed: It’s such an inconvenience . Before I was able to slide my thumb and access anything I wanted instantly. Now I must enter my code every time I want to use my phone. I also noticed that at first I had to think about my code. It took me about two seconds to process what I had used as a code and then punch it in. Finally I noticed that over time, typing in my password, became second hand and I literally forgot about the code altogether.

Now I know I may be taking this password thing a little too deeply but it made me think about some things.

Things come up in our lives that require a password. They are always things we want to hide. Things we want to secure. These are the deepest, and most vulnerable parts of our soul. And so we comply. We punch in the figurative codes to our heart so all of that emotion, all of that information, and all of those secrets are safe. I see a few problems with this.

1) When we put up a password to block others out, we simultaneously create another barrier between ourselves and those things. We essentially make it more difficult on ourselves to access our own vault.

2) We get so use to punching in our own password that we don’t even realize that we’re hiding certain things. We’ve punched in the code so many times that it’s become a part of “what we do”. We’ve deceived ourselves.

3) We forget the password. I don’t know about you, but I have about 20 something passwords. Different things require different types of passwords. You have to a capital letter, space , number, plus a chinese symbol or something. This inevitably leads to me occasionally forgetting a code or two. What a pain! If you can’t remember what street you lived on as a kid, or your first pet’s name, then you’re really in trouble. Many of us symbolically create 18 digit passwords as if to intentionally forget it. We love forgetting passwords because that means we never have to go there. We never have to access that account or think about those thoughts. Let me assure you, what you’ve locked in your vault is never going away without you unlocking it.

Some of the passwords we make are silly. We make them because we’re insecure or we want to hide something simple. Others are very deep and are detrimental to our well being. If you have lost your password, let me assure you that there is a master locksmith. He doesn’t forget passwords. He knows what’s down there. Let him go to work on your heart.

When I say “TEBOW” you say ________________

13 Mar

Let’s play a game….

When I say “boots, guns, and broken down cars in the front yard”, you say ____________ (Cowboy or Redeck depending on if you are one)

When I say “Scary, obnoxious,  and not human”, you say ____________ (Lady Gaga. I’ll also accept Nicki Minaj)

one more……

When I say “doesn’t like girls, smells like B.O., wears the same clothes two days in a row”, you say ______________(Jr. High boys or my dog Raz when we dress him up for Christmas)

We all stereotype.

A stereotype is defined as a widely held but fixed and oversimplified image or idea of a particular type of person or thing.

My guess is the greatest type of stereotyping you’ve been doing is to yourself.

When I say (insert your name) you say ____________.

You have an oversimplified idea of who you are.

In your head you have determined that you think, act, walk, talk,  and relate in a certain way.

Because you have determined this, you now take it upon yourself to uphold your very own stereo-typification of yourself.

You created that stereotype.

Sure people’s actions and words have helped form that, but you were the one who approved those ideas in your head.

Stereotyping yourself postpones personal growth.

Stereotyping yourself abandons adventure.

Stereotyping yourself crushes your creativity- You think things like “I wouldn’t normally think that or say that” and so you don’t.

Stereotyping yourself neutralizes faith.

Stereotyping yourself takes away from the uniqueness of  who you really are.

Didn’t Moses do this in Exodus 6:30 ?

He did a quick overview of his self stereo-typification and said, “nope, public speaking isn’t in there” (paraphrase)

I can hear him speaking in third person, “Moses doesn’t do that” (paraphrase)

Now I’m not saying you need to have high self worth or “give yourself more credit”.

And I’m not suggesting to “believe in a better version of yourself”.

I’m suggesting you give God more credit.

I’m saying you need to believe in a better version of Him.

Whatever stereotyped picture of yourself you’ve drawn up in your head- Let’s the take the eraser to it.

Like an etch a sketch, you may need to shake yourself in order to rid yourself of the self imposing lines you’ve drawn.

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”- Matthew 19:26

When Push Comes to Love

11 Mar



Two of the most profound words in our dictionary.

Distinct, but both enourmosly powerful.

Separate, yet intertwined.

Here’s the problem.

They are constantly at odds.

People say things like, “all this world needs is more love” or  “truth is the only thing that really matters”.


The man who heralds truth without an ounce of sympathy.

Or the woman who bypasses truth for the sake of feelings or people getting hurt.


Because we protect what we value most.

Those who hold truth highly are prone to leaving Love on the shelf.

Those who hold love highly are prone to forfeiting truth so that “love wins“.

There are some underlying motivations to these actions that we must understand.

Those who elevate truth over love tend to be motivated by being right.

Those who elevate love over truth tend to be motivated by being accepted.

They both sprout from the same seed-Pride.


Which person are you?

Which route does your pride take you?

The BitterSweet truth is that Truth and Love are inseperable.

In order to properly deliver truth or love we have to value them both equally.

That is not to say you need to devalue either but rather value the lesser more.

They become separate when their values are different.


Love is the music that truth dances to.

You can’t have a football game without a football.

You can’t have truth without love and love without truth.

Genuine love and genuine truth can only occur simultaneously.


So to the truth guy/girl-

Examine your heart.  Make sure your love for truth = your love for people.

Watch your tone.  Don’t let your passion for truth be mistaken for  cold-heartedness.

Show some emotion. You don’t always have to offend.

You don’t always need to be controversial.  You don’t always need to speak.  Learn to navigate truth in a way that shows you care.


To the love guy/girl-

Truth can be painful.  Truth can lose you some friends.

If you love someone you  may need to have difficult conversations with them.  If you don’t say it to them, who will?

Don’t belittle truth in the name of love.  Stop getting your feelings hurt by truth. Love could actually mean saying “no”.

Stop rejecting truth that doesn’t make you feel good.  Stop sugarcoating everything. Medicine tastes bad no matter what flavor it is.


To both of you-

You guys are on the same team.

Embrace each other.

Truth Guy, show Love Guy where he’s neglecting truth.  Love Guy, show Truth Guy how to lovingly communicate truth.


The mission is truth.  The motivation is love.  Value both deeply!

I strongly suggest reading I corinthians 13 and Ephesians 4, specifically verses 15 and 25 for a better understanding of truth and love.

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